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こころノート https://validator.w3.org/feed/docs/rss2.html 毒親の連鎖を止める｜なぜ繰り返してしまうのか、その構造と出口ホーム “Parents and Children Always Understand Each Other” — The Myth That Isolates Abuse Survivors 「母は悲劇のヒロイン」裕子さんの場合②｜自分を被害者だと思い込む親の特徴 The Five Stages of Emotional Development — Security, Selfhood, Rule-Learning, Boundary, and Autonomy Why Does Abuse “Repeat”? Four Intergenerational Patterns and How They Differ What Is the Difference Between Abuse and “Discipline”? Understanding Where the Line Really Is Mothers Raised in Abuse — Their Unspoken Struggles and How Supporters Can Recognize Them Mai, Who Kept Saying “I Don’t Hate Her” — The Psychology of Protecting an Abusive Parent Why Ten Years of Counseling Didn’t Work — Yukie’s Case: When ‘Being Agreeable’ Becomes a Barrier to Recovery For You, Who Have Spent Your Life Pretending to Be “Normal” — The Hidden Struggle of Abuse Survivors “I Could Never Be Normal” — Yuko’s Story: An Abuse Survivor’s Confession of Self-Blame When Trauma Looks Like ADHD — Why Abused Children Are Misdiagnosed as Having Developmental Disorders Unhealthy Pairs Hidden in Plain Sight — Why Abuse Survivors Are Drawn Into Controlling Relationships Abuse With Apologies and Abuse Without — The Decisive Difference That Inner Conflict Makes The Surprising Things That Become Difficult with Lower IQ — Perspective-Taking and Emotional Regulation The Intelligence Problem Behind Child Abuse — Why Mild ID and Borderline Intelligence Are Overrepresented Why People Believed “Abuse Always Cycles” — And What the Research Actually Shows The “Intergenerational Cycle of Abuse” Is Misunderstood — Survivors Are Not Destined to Repeat the Past Why ‘Normal Parents’ Never Abuse Their Children — The Fundamental Difference Why Abuse Survivors Feel Nothing — “Emotional Numbness” Was a Survival Strategy What Are ‘Mild’ Intellectual Disability and Borderline Intelligence? The Hidden Spectrum Most People Never See Why You Can’t Trust People — The Gift You Never Received in Childhood The Apology That Will Never Come — Why Abusive Parents Cannot Change Don’t Be Misled by “I’m Struggling” — How Support Workers Can Tell Distress from Maladjustment Not “I Want to Die” — “I Want to Disappear”: What Abuse Survivors’ Suicidal Ideation Really Means Why You Don’t Know What You Want — The Gift You Never Received: A Sense of Self 健全な育ちに必要なギフト③「境界線」を獲得する｜「嫌だ」と思っても断れない人へ「私、悩んでいるんです！」に惑わされない健全な育ちに必要なギフト②「自我」を獲得する｜「自分が何をしたいのかわからない」の正体 Why You Can’t Say No — The Gift You Never Received: Boundaries 虐待を「相談できる親」と「できない親」の違い｜知能と自覚の関係を解説 4つの虐待に隠れたもう一つの虐待知能が低いと難しい「意外なこと」とは？～軽度知的障害・境界知能の人間関係編～知能が低いと難しい「意外なこと」とは？～軽度知的障害・境界知能の子育て編～知的障がいの「軽度」と「境界知能」とは？｜見えにくい知能の特性を解説親不孝への恐怖——紀子さんの場合なぜ人を信じられないのか｜健全な育ちに必要なギフト①「安心」「普通のお母さんがほしかった」詩織さんの場合｜虐待サバイバーの体験談連鎖への恐怖——「自分も親と同じことをしてしまうのか」「生き延びた幼少期」浩一さんの場合｜身体的虐待を受けた男性の体験談「虐待は連鎖する」と信じられてきた理由｜この通説は本当か？虐待と「しつけ」の違いとは？｜境界線を知るための基礎知識「虐待の世代間連鎖」は誤解されている｜虐待サバイバーが子どもを虐待するとは限らないなぜ「普通の親」は虐待しないのか？｜虐待する親との決定的な違い IQレベルで虐待パターンが変わる見立てを誤ると、子どもが追い詰められる──虐待親への「正しい対応」が逆効果になるとき虐待はなぜ「繰り返す」のか｜世代をまたぐ四つのパターンと、その違い「全てを決める母」早紀さんの場合｜過干渉という名の支配を受けて「サンドバッグにされた子供時代」亮太さんの場合｜暴力と支配の家庭で育って