“I can’t say no when someone asks me.” “The thought that they might get angry makes me swallow my own feeling.” “I don’t know how much distance to keep with people.”
— Even now, as an adult, there is something that doesn’t quite let me hold “my own territory” with anyone.
If you have ever felt that, this article is for you.
It is not that you are timid, and it is not that you are too kind. There is just something you did not receive in childhood.
That something is “boundaries” — the third gift a child receives from a parent.
A child who has acquired “Safety” and grown a “self” eventually arrives at adolescence.
That is when the time comes to receive the last of the gifts from the parent.
It is the boundary of heart and body that even a parent must not step across — the sense that “you are you, I am I.”
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