“The parent who abused me is getting old. Do I have to take care of them?” — the voices that ask this carry not only anger but deep confusion.
From the support field:
“My mother, who threw me out forty years ago, has reached old age. My younger sister is trying to push her onto me through the adult-guardianship system. Is there really no right to refuse? I have spent everything just managing to live on my own — and now the demands of the people who tossed me away are supposed to take priority?”
Some are being told by relatives “this is your job.” Some have received a “support inquiry” notice from welfare and are reeling. Some are carrying it alone because they assume “the law requires it.”
Bottom line first: there is no unconditional legal duty for a child to take on the care of an abusive parent.
“There is no duty” is, however, slightly imprecise. Precisely: “A duty of support exists, but it is limited in scope, and where there is a history of abuse there is room for exemption or reduction.” That is the structure of the law.
This article walks through that legal structure and the practical questions of “what can I refuse?” and “how do I refuse?” This is not legal advice. For specific situations, consult an attorney.
“You Have a Duty of Support” — Knowing Precisely What That Means
What Article 877 of the Civil Code actually says
The most common confusion in legal consultations is “duty to care for the parent = duty to provide caregiving.” Article 877 establishes a duty of support between direct relatives (parent and child). The content of that “duty” is different from what most people imagine.
The child’s duty toward the parent is, in legal terms, a “duty of living-aid support.” It is the duty to provide minimum support to the parent only after maintaining one’s own life, and only when there is excess capacity.
You do not have any legal duty to sacrifice your own life to take care of a parent.
“Caregiving” and “support” are not the same thing
The support duty is a duty of financial assistance. It is not a duty to deliver hands-on care yourself. There is no obligation to live with the parent, change their diapers, or take them to medical appointments personally. That work is delivered by family caregivers, professional services, or facilities — and you are not legally required to do it.
The amount of financial support owed, when any is owed at all, is decided by considering the parent’s needs and the child’s economic capacity. When the child has no margin, the recognized amount is low — including, sometimes, zero.
When Abuse Has Occurred — Is the Duty Waived?
Family-court relief from the duty
Where a history of abuse exists, a petition to family court can lead to exemption or reduction of the support duty. Article 879 provides that, when the parties cannot agree on the level and method of support, the family court can decide. The fact of abuse is one of the elements weighed in that decision.
Practitioners describe situations where exemption or reduction has been considered: severe physical or psychological abuse from early childhood; financial exploitation continuing into adulthood; mental disorder developed as a result of neglect or psychological abuse; long-term (10+ years) cessation of contact.
Case law in this area is limited; not every case results in exemption. Severity, length of estrangement, the petitioner’s economic situation — all are weighed together.
“Abuse of right”: denial of the abusive parent’s claim
The legal community has discussed the possibility of denying an abusive parent’s support claim as “an abuse of right.” Counsel commentary: where the parent’s prior conduct was so seriously contrary to the relationship — for example, a father who abandoned his support of the child but then in old age claims support from that child — the request can be treated as an abuse of right.
Abuse is more than “abandoned support.” Following the same logic, an abusive parent’s support claim being denied as abuse of right is well within possibility. But cases on this point are still limited; the body of jurisprudence will continue to develop.
In adjudication, “I do not want involvement” is respected
A common worry is “will my position ‘I want no involvement at all’ be respected by the court?” Counsel commentary is clear: “It is respected.” Family-court adjudication does not have the function of forcing physical caregiving against the will of the party.
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